“明枪易躲,暗箭难防”的下一句是什么?
没有下一句。
拼音:
míng qiāng yì duǒ,àn jiàn nán fáng
解释:
明处来的枪容易躲开,暗中射来的箭难以提防。比喻种种公开的和隐蔽的攻击。
出处:
元·无名氏《独角牛》:“孩儿也,一了说明枪好躲,暗箭难防。”
例句:
明枪易躲,暗箭难防,你要注意那些伪君子对你的迫害。
听说有人背地里告你的状,明枪易躲,暗箭难防,可得格外当心。
给些英语谚语吧
给你谚语500句,呵呵
A bad beginning makes a bad ending.不善始者不善终。
A bad thing never dies. 遗臭万年。
A bad workman always blames his tools. 不会撑船怪河弯。
A bird in the hand is worth than two in the bush. 一鸟在手胜过双鸟在林。
Boaster and a liar are cousins-german. 吹牛与说谎本是同宗。
A bully is always a coward. 色厉内荏。
A burden of one's choice is not felt. 爱挑的担子不嫌重
A candle lights others and consumes itself. 蜡烛照亮别人,却毁灭了自己。
A cat has 9 lives. 猫有九条命
A cat may look at a king. 人人平等。
A close mouth catches no flies. 病从口入。
A constant guest is never welcome. 常客令人厌。
Actions speak louder than words. 事实胜于雄辩。
Adversity leads to prosperity. 穷则思变。
Adversity makes a man wise, not rich. 逆境出人才。
A fair death honors the whole life. 死得其所,流芳百世。
A faithful friend is hard to find. 知音难觅。
A fall into a pit, a gain in your wit.吃一堑,长一智。
A fox may grow gray, but never good. 江山易改,本性难移
A friend in need is a friend indeed. 患难见真情
A friend is easier lost than found. 得朋友难,失朋友易。
A friend is never known till a man has need. 需要之时方知友
A friend without faults will never be found.没有十全十美的朋友。
After you' is good manners."您先请"是礼貌。
A good beginning is half done.良好的开端是成功的一半。
A good beginning makes a good ending.善始者善
A good book is a good friend.好书如挚友。
A good book is the best of friends, the same today and forever.一本好书,相伴一生。
A good conscience is a soft pillow.不做亏心事,不怕鬼叫门。
A good fame is better than a good face.美名胜过美貌。
A good husband makes a good wife.夫善则妻贤。
A good medicine tastes bitter.良药苦口。
A good wife health is a man's best wealth.妻贤身体好是男人最大的财富。
A great talker is a great liar.说大话者多谎言。
A hedge between keeps friendship green.君子之交淡如水。
A joke never gains an enemy but loses a friend.戏谑不能化敌为友,只能使人失去朋友。
A leopard cannot change its spots.积习难改。
A liar is not believed when he speaks the truth.说谎者即使讲真话也没人相信。
A light heart lives long.静以修身。
A little body often harbors a great soul.浓缩的都是精品。
A little knowledge is a dangerous thing.一知半解,自欺欺人。
A little pot is soon hot.狗肚子盛不得四两油。
All are brave when the enemy flies.敌人逃窜时,人人都成了勇士。
All good things come to an end.天下没有不散的筵席。
All rivers run into sea.海纳百川。
All roads lead to Rome.条条大路通罗马。
All that ends well is well.结果好,就一切都好。
All that glitters is not gold.闪光的不一定都是金子。
All things are difficult before they are easy.凡事总是由难而易。
All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.只会用功不玩耍,聪明孩子也变傻。
A man becomes learned by asking questions.不耻下问才能有学问。
A man can do no more than he can.凡事都应量力而行。
A man cannot spin and reel at the same time.一心不能二用。
A man is known by his friends.什么人交什么朋友。
A man of words and not of deeds is like a garden full of weeds.光说空话不做事,犹如花园光长刺。
A man without money is no man at all.一分钱难倒英雄汉。
A merry heart goes all the way.心旷神怡,事事顺利。
A miss is as good as a mile.失之毫厘,差之千里。
A mother's love never changes.母爱永恒。
An apple a day keeps the doctor away.一天一苹果,不用请医生。
A new broom sweeps clean.新官上任三把火。
An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.以眼还眼,以牙还牙。
An hour in the morning is worth two in the evening.一日之计在于晨。
An old dog cannot learn new tricks.老狗学不出新把戏。
An ounce of luck is better than a pound of wisdom.聪明才智,不如运气。
An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.预防为主,治疗为辅。
A rolling stone gathers no moss.滚石不生苔,转业不聚财。
As a man sows, so he shall reap.种瓜得瓜,种豆得豆。
A single flower does not make a spring.一花独放不是春,百花齐放春满园。
A snow year, a rich year.瑞雪兆丰年。
A sound mind in a sound body.健全的精神寓于健康的身体。
A still tongue makes a wise head.寡言者智。
A stitch in time saves nine.小洞不补,大洞吃苦。
A straight foot is not afraid of a crooked shoe.身正不怕影子斜。
A wise head makes a close mouth.真人不露相,露相非真人。
A word spoken is past recalling.一言既出,驷马难追。
A year's plan starts with spring.一年之计在于春。
A young idler, an old beggar.少壮不努力,老大徒伤悲。
Bad news has wings.好事不出门,坏事传千里。
Barking dogs seldom bite.吠犬不咬人。
Beauty lies in the love's eyes.情人眼里出西施。
Be swift to hear, slow to speak.听宜敏捷,言宜缓行。
Better late than never.不怕慢,单怕站。
Better to ask the way than go astray.问路总比迷路好。
Between friends all is common.朋友之间不分彼此。
Birds of a feather flock together.物以类聚,人以群分。
Blood is thicker than water.血浓于水。
Blood will have blood.血债血偿。
Books and friends should be few but good.读书如交友,应求少而精。
Business is business.公事公办。
Business is the salt of life.事业是人生的第一需要。
By reading we enrich the mind, by conversation we polish it.读书使人充实,交谈使人精明。 Cannot see the wood for the trees.一叶障目,不见泰山。
Care and diligence bring luck.谨慎和勤奋才能抓住机遇。
Caution is the parent of safety.小心驶得万年船。
Cheats never prosper.骗人发不了财。
Children are what the mothers are.耳濡目染,身教言传。
Choose an author as you choose a friend.择书如择友。
Come what may, heaven won't fall.做你的吧,天塌不下来。
Complacency is the enemy of study.学习的敌人是自己的满足。
Confidence in yourself is the first step on the road to success.自信是走向成功的第一步。 Constant dripping wears away a stone.水滴石穿,绳锯木断。
Content is better than riches.知足者常乐。
Count one's chickens before they are hatched.蛋未孵先数雏。
Courtesy on one side only lasts not long.来而不往非礼也。
Creep before you walk.循序渐进。
Cry for the moon.海底捞月。
Custom is a second nature.习惯是后天养成的。
Custom makes all things easy.有个好习惯,事事皆不难。
Diamond cuts diamond.强中自有强中手。
Do as the Romans do.入乡随俗。
Do as you would be done by.己所不欲,勿施于人。
Doing is better than saying.与其挂在嘴上,不如落实在行动上。
Do it now.机不可失,时不再来。
Do nothing by halves.凡事不可半途而废。
Don't claim to know what you don't know.不要不懂装懂。
Don't have too many irons in the fire.不要揽事过多。
Don't make a mountain out of a molehill.不要小题大做。
Don't put off till tomorrow what should be done today.今日事,今日毕。
Don't put the cart before the horse.不要本末倒置。
Don't trouble trouble until trouble troubles you.不要自找麻烦。
Don't try to teach your grandmother to suck eggs.不要班门弄斧。
Do well and have well.善有善报。
Each bird love to hear himself sing.孤芳自赏。
Early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.早睡早起身体好。
Easier said than done.说得容易,做得难。
Easy come, easy go.来也匆匆,去也匆匆。
Eat to live, but not live to eat.人吃饭是为了活着,但活着不是为了吃饭。
Empty vessels make the greatest sound.实磨无声空磨响,满瓶不动半瓶摇。
Envy has no holidays.忌妒之人无宁日。
Even Homer sometimes nods.智者千虑,必有一失。
Even reckoning makes long friends.亲兄弟,明算账。
Every advantage has its disadvantage.有利必有弊。
Everybody's business is nobody's business.人人负责,等于没人负责。
Every day is not Sunday.好景不常在。
Every dog has his day.谁都有得意的时候。
Every door may be shut, but death's door.人生在世,唯死难逃。
Every heart has its own sorrow.各人有各人的苦恼。
Every little helps a mickle.聚沙成塔,集腋成裘。
Every man for himself, and the devil takes the hindmost.人不为己,天诛地灭。
Every man has his faults.金无足赤,人无完人。
Every man has his hobbyhorse.萝卜青菜,各有所爱。
Every man has his weak side.人人都有弱点。
Every man is the architect of his own fortune.自己的命运自己掌握。
Every minute counts.分秒必争。
Every mother's child is handsome.孩子是自己的好。
Every potter praises hit pot.王婆卖瓜,自卖自夸。
Everything is good when new, but friends when old.东西是新的好,朋友是老的亲。
Example is better then percept.说一遍,不如做一遍。
Experience is the father of wisdom and memory the mother.经验是智慧之父,记忆是智慧之母。
Experience must be bought.吃一堑,长一智。
Fact speak louder than words.事实胜于雄辩。
Failure is the mother of success.失败是成功之母。
False friends are worse than bitter enemies.明枪易躲,暗箭难防。
Far from eye, far from heart.眼不见,心不烦。
Far water does not put out near fire.远水救不了近火。
Faults are thick where love is thin.一朝情意淡,样样不顺眼。
Fear always springs from ignorance.恐惧源于无知。
Fields have eyes, and woods have ears.隔墙有耳。
Fire and water have no mercy.水火无情。
Fire is a good servant but a bad master.火是一把双刃剑。
First come, first served.先来后到。
First impressions are half the battle.初次见面,印象最深。
First think and then speak.先想后说。
Fools grow without watering.朽木不可雕。
Fool's haste is no speed.欲速则不达。
Fools has fortune.呆人有呆福。
Fools learn nothing from wise men, but wise men learn much from fools.愚者不学无术,智者不耻. Forbidden fruit is sweet.禁果格外香。
Fortune favors those who use their judgement.机遇偏爱善断之人。
Fortune knocks once at least at every man's gate.风水轮流转。
Four eyes see more than two.集思广益。
Friends agree best at distance.朋友之间也会保持距离。
Friends are thieves of time.朋友是时间的窃贼。
Friends must part.再好的朋友也有分手的时候。
Genius is nothing but labor and diligence.天才不过是勤奋而已。
Give a dog a bad name and hang him.众口铄金,积毁销骨。
God helps those who help themselves.自助者天助。
Gold will not buy anything.黄金并非万能。
Good for good is natural, good for evil is manly.以德报德是常理,以德报怨大丈夫。
Good health is over wealth.健康是最大的财富。
Good medicine for health tastes bitter to the mouth.良药苦口利于病。
Good watch prevents misfortune.谨慎消灾。
Great barkers are no biters.好狗不挡道。
Great hopes make great man.伟大的抱负造就伟大的人物。
Great minds think alike.英雄所见略同。
Great men have great faults.英雄犯大错误。
Great men's sons seldom do well.富不过三代。
Great trees are good for nothing but shade.大树底下好乘凉。
Great wits have short memories.贵人多忘事。
Greedy folks have long arms.心贪手长。
Guilty consciences make men cowards.做贼心虚。 Habit cures habit.心病还需心药医。
Handsome is he who does handsomely.行为漂亮才算美。
Happiness takes no account of time.欢乐不觉时光过。
Happy is he who owes nothing.要想活得痛快,身上不能背债。
Happy is the man who learns from the misfortunes of others.吸取他人教训,自己才会走运。
Harm set, harm get.害人害己。
Hasty love, soon cold.一见钟情难维久。
Health is better than wealth.健康胜过财富。
Health is happiness.健康就是幸福。
Hear all parties.兼听则明。
Heaven never helps the man who will not act.自己不动,叫天何用。
He is a fool that forgets himself.愚者忘乎所以。
He is a good friend that speaks well of us behind our backs.背后说好话,才是真朋友。
He is a wise man who speaks little.聪明不是挂在嘴上。
He is lifeless that is faultless.只有死人才不犯错误。
He is not fit to command others that cannot command himself.正人先正己。
He is not laughed at that laughs at himself first.自嘲者不会让人见笑。
He is wise that is honest.诚实者最明智。
He knows most who speaks least.大智若愚。
He laughs best who laughs last.谁笑到最后,谁笑得最好。
He sets the fox to keep the geese.引狼入室。
He that climbs high falls heavily.爬得越高,摔得越重。
He that will not work shall not eat.不劳动者不得食。
He who does not advance loses ground.逆水行舟,不进则退。
He who makes constant complaint gets little compassion.经常诉苦,没人同情。
He who makes no mistakes makes nothing.想不犯错误,就一事无成。
He who risks nothing gains nothing.收获与风险并存。
History repeats itself.历史往往重演。
Honesty is the best policy.做人诚信为本。
Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.抱最好的愿望,做最坏的打算。
I cannot be your friend and your flatterer too.朋友不能阿谀奉承。
If a man deceives me once, shame on him, if he deceives me twice, shame on me.
上当一回头,再多就可耻。
If you make yourself an ass, don't complain if people ride you.人善被人欺,马善被人骑。
If your ears glow, someone is talking of you.耳朵发烧,有人念叨。
If you run after two hares, you will catch neither.脚踏两条船,必定落空。
If you sell the cow, you sell her milk too.杀鸡取卵。
If you venture nothing, you will have nothing.不入虎穴,焉得虎子。
If you want knowledge, you must toil for it.要想求知,就得吃苦。
Industry is the parent of success.勤奋是成功之母。
It is better to die when life is a disgrace.宁为玉碎,不为瓦全。
It is easier to get money than to keep it.挣钱容易攒钱难。
It is easy to be wise after the event.事后诸葛亮好当。
It is easy to open a shop but hard to keep it always open.创业容易守业难。
It is hard to please all.众口难调。
It is never too old to learn.活到老,学到老。
It is no use crying over spilt milk.覆水难收。
It is the first step that costs troublesome.万事开头难。
It is the unforeseen that always happens.天有不测风云,人有旦夕祸福。
It is too late to grieve when the chance is past.坐失良机,后悔已迟。
It never rains but it pours.不鸣则已,一鸣惊人。
It takes three generations to make a gentleman.十年树木,百年树人。
Jack of all trades and master of none.门门精通,样样稀松。
Judge not from appearances.人不可貌相,海不可斗量。
Justice has long arms.天网恢恢,疏而不漏。
Keep good men company and you shall be of the number.近朱者赤,近墨者黑。
Kill two birds with one stone.一箭双雕。
Kings go mad, and the people suffer for it.君王发狂,百姓遭殃。
Kings have long arms.普天之下,莫非王土。
Knowledge is power.知识就是力量。
Knowledge makes humble, ignorance makes proud.博学使人谦逊,无知使人骄傲。
Learn and live.活着,为了学习。
Learning makes a good man better and ill man worse.好人越学越好,坏人越学越坏。
Learn not and know not.不学无术。
Learn to walk before you run.先学走,再学跑。
Let bygones be bygones.过去的就让它过去吧。
Let sleeping dogs lie.别惹麻烦。
Let the cat out of the bag.泄漏天机。
Lies can never changes fact.谎言终究是谎言。
Lies have short legs.谎言站不长。
Life is but a span.人生苦短。
Life is half spent before we know what it is.人过半生,方知天命。
Life is not all roses.人生并不是康庄大道。
Life without a friend is death.没有朋友,虽生犹死。
Like a rat in a hole.瓮中之鳖。 Like author, like book.文如其人。
Like father, like son.有其父必有其子。 Like for like.一报还一报。
Like knows like.惺惺相惜。
Like mother, like daughter.有其母必有其女。
Like teacher, like pupil.什么样的老师教什么样的学生。
Like tree, like fruit.羊毛出在羊身上。
Little things amuse little minds.小人无大志。
Look before you leap.摸清情况再行动。
Lookers-on see more than players.当局者迷,旁观者清。
Losers are always in the wrong.胜者为王,败者为寇。
Lost time is never found again.岁月既往,一去不回。
Love at first sight.一见钟情。
Love cannot be compelled.爱情不能强求。
Love is blind.爱情是盲目的。
Love is full of trouble.爱情充满烦恼。
Love is never without jealousy.没有妒忌就没有爱情。
Love me, love my dog.爱屋及乌。
Make hay while the sun shines.良机勿失。
Make your enemy your friend.化敌为友。
Man is the soul of the universe.人是万物之灵。
Man proposes, God disposes.谋事在人,成事在天。
Many hands make light work.众人拾柴火焰高。
Many heads are better than one.三个臭皮匠,赛过诸葛亮。
Many things grow in the garden that were never sown there.有心栽花花不发,无心插柳柳成荫。
Measure for measure.针锋相对。
Misfortunes never come alone.祸不单行。
Misfortune tests the sincerity of friends.患难见真情。
Money isn't everything.钱不是万能的。
Murder will out.纸包不住火。
My son is my son till he has got him a wife, but my daughter is my daughter all the days of her life.儿子婚前是儿子,女儿终生是女儿。 Nature is the true law.天行有常,不为尧存,不为桀亡。
Necessity is the mother of invention.需要是发明的动力。
Never fish in trouble water.不要混水摸鱼。
Never judge from appearances.不可以貌取人。
Never say die.永不言败。
Never too old to learn, never too late to turn.亡羊补牢,为时未晚。
New wine in old bottles.旧瓶装新酒。
No cross, no crown.不经历风雨,怎么见彩虹。
No garden without its weeds.没有不长草的园子。
No living man all things can.世上没有万事通。
No man can do two things at once.一心不可二用。
No man is born wise or learned.没有生而知之者。
No man is content.人心不足蛇吞象。
No man is wise at all times.聪明一世,糊涂一时。
None are so blind as those who won't see.视而不见。
None are so deaf as those who won't hear.充耳不闻。
No news is good news.没有消息就是好消息。
No one can call back yesterday.昨日不会重现。
No pains, no gains.没有付出就没有收获。
No pleasure without pain.没有苦就没有乐。
No rose without a thorn.没有不带刺的玫瑰。
No sweet without sweat.先苦后甜。
No smoke without fire.无风不起浪。
Nothing brave, nothing have.不入虎穴,焉得虎子。
Nothing dries sooner than a tear.眼泪干得最快。
Nothing in the world is difficult for one who sets his mind to it.世上无难事,只怕有心人。 Nothing is difficult to the man who will try.世上无难事,只要肯登攀。
Nothing seek, nothing find.没有追求就没有收获。
Nothing is so necessary for travelers as languages.外出旅行,语言最要紧。
Nothing is to be got without pains but poverty.世上唯有贫穷可以不劳而获。
Not to advance is to go back.不进则退。
Not to know what happened before one was born is always to be a child.不懂世故,幼稚可笑。
No way is impossible to courage.勇者无惧。
Obedience is the first duty of a soldier.军人以服从命令为天职。
Observation is the best teacher.观察是最好的老师。
Offense is the best defense.进攻是最好的防御。
Old friends and old wines are best.陈酒味醇,老友情深。
Old sin makes new shame.一失足成千古恨。
Once a man and twice a child.一次老,两次小。
Once a thief, always a thief.偷盗一次,做贼一世。
Once bitten, twice shy.一朝被蛇咬,十年怕井绳。
One boy is a boy, two boys half a boy, three boys no boy.一个和尚挑水喝,两个和尚抬水喝,三个和尚没水喝。
One cannot put back the clock.时钟不能倒转。
One eyewitness is better than ten hearsays.百闻不如一见。
One false move may lose the game.一着不慎,满盘皆输。
One good turn deserves another.行善积德。
One hour today is worth two tomorrow.争分夺秒效率高。
One man's fault is other man's lesson.前车之鉴。
One never loses anything by politeness.讲礼貌不吃亏。
One swallow does not make a summer.一燕不成夏。
One's words reflect one's thinking.言为心声。
Out of debt, out of danger.无债一身轻。
Out of office, out of danger.无官一身轻。
Out of sight, out of mind.眼不见,心为静。
Patience is the best remedy.忍耐是良药。 Patience is the best remedy.忍耐是良药。
Penny wise, pound foolish.贪小便宜吃大亏。
Plain dealing is praised more than practiced.正大光明者,说到的多,做到的少。
Please the eye and plague the heart.贪图一时快活,必然留下隐祸。
Pleasure comes through toil.苦尽甘来。
Pour water into a sieve.竹篮子打水一场空。
Practice makes perfect.熟能生巧。
Praise is not pudding.恭维话不能当饭吃。
Praise makes good men better, and bad men worse.好人越夸越好,坏人越夸越糟。
Prefer loss to unjust gain.宁可吃亏,不贪便宜。
Prevention is better than cure.预防胜
对付小人最省心最有效的方法是什么?
古人说:“害人之心不可有,防人之心不可无。”又说:“明枪易躲,暗箭难防。”这就是说,人在世间走,不得不设防,尤其对小人要防上加防。
要防小人,首先要学会识别小人,概括起来说,小人有以下几个基本特点:
1、利益至上,为达到目的不择手段,踩着别人肩膀上的人。 2、阴奉阳违,笑里藏刀,善于挑拨离间,善于暗算的人。 3、心眼多,心机重,喜欢搬弄是非的人。 4、心胸狭窄,虚荣心强、报复心强的人。 5、溜须拍马,阿谀奉承的人
这样,小人的画像就出来了。
在日常工作和生活中,如果遇到这样的人,我们如何与之相处,才能避免与之发生不必要的矛盾和麻烦呢?
1. 不要轻易得罪小人
刚到机关上班的时候,有同事就告诉我,某人不可靠近,也不要得罪,我当时没当回事。后来,此人的女儿办婚宴,我没随礼,因为我和他不熟,也没有来往。这下就得罪了他,他不仅指桑骂槐,而且还在领导面前说我的坏话。我这才明白,小人真的得罪不起的。
小人心胸狭窄,报复心强,喜欢搬弄是非,善于落井下石。小人自认为自己占据了道德高地,从不认为自己奸诈不厚道,为了报复你,他可能会采取很多见不得人的手段,所以不到万不得已,就尽量不要得罪他们,不得罪他们等于保护我们自己。
2. 能避则避,尽量和他们保持距离
对待小人要敬而远之。对待他们表面上要笑脸相迎,见面该打招呼就打招呼,不要故意躲避,不要表现出明显的排斥,否则会引起小人的憎恨。
一般情况下,要尽量和他们保持距离,最起码不要走得太近,最好不要有经济上的往来,也尽量不要走进他的圈子,因为小人的圈子里,也大多是小人。古人说: “入鲍鱼之肆,久闻而不知其臭;入幽兰之室,久而不闻其香。” 一旦踏入小人的圈子,时间久了,你也会变成小人。
3、说话要谨慎,小心被他抓住把柄
人与人相处,贵在真诚,但这对小人行不通。对平常人说话尚且要留三分余地,对待小人就更应该小心谨慎。要做到该说的话不说,不该说的话更不去说。很多时候,小人和你说话都是有目的的,他们会抓住你的痛点套你的话。
比如:你在单位工作很努力,但职位上不去,他们就假装同情你,引导你说出你对领导不满意的话来。你以为他关心你,便把心中的不快全盘托出,就正好中了他的诡计。用不了多久,你所发的牢骚便会进入领导的耳中,而且是变了味的。如果是这样,你还能在单位呆得很舒服吗?
小人的本性是难移的,他喜欢颠倒是非,他唯恐天下不乱,他不愿看到别人的好,所以与小人说话一定要注意,和他说一些客套话、无关痛痒的话就好了,比如谈谈天气,聊聊足球之类的。
4、如果欺人太甚,必要时给其迎头痛击
小人一般都是欺软怕硬的角儿,有时我们的忍让会让他们得寸进尺,如果我们不慎得罪了小人,而小人又使出损招对我们进行谩骂攻击,已经触及到了我们忍耐底线,这种情况下,我们就无需再忍,我们一定要抓住小人的弱点,给予其精确打击,灭其威风,消其气焰,给其教训,起到威慑作用,以绝后患。
首先提醒你一句,对待小人,世界没有最省心最有效的办法。对待小人,是一把双刃剑,需要小心谨慎,哪里有最省心最有效的办法?!对付小人的办法,归纳起来,主要有三个论点:一是躲,二是斗,三是虚伪应付。在实践上,职场中的小人,其实有三种:同级、下级、上级。不同类型的小人,应该有不同的应对之道:
【一】对同级小人,以防为主
职场上,同级的同事,既有合作关系,也有竞争关系,“小人辈出”,千万小心。同级同事中的小人,不建议用打的策略,原因有三:一是你对他没有用人权,打小人,容易两败俱伤;二是同级之间的矛盾,有时候会被上司利用,小人反而容易占到便宜;三是同级小人善于制造浑水,你打赢了又怎样,还不是也踩一脚狗屎。
职场上,对同级小人,最好的应对之策是“防”!有人说用“躲”,遇到他就绕道走。同在一个公司做事,抬头不见低头见,你能躲哪里去?再说,如果你有益躲着他,他认为你害怕他,更容易加害于你。正确的方法是,正面应对,严防死守,表现上若无其事,勾肩搭背,心里装一道防火墙,嘴上装一把安全锁。涉及自己的利益的核心要素,对小人防微杜渐;涉及自己的隐私把柄,对小人三缄其口。
【二】对下级小人,以打为主
职场上,对待下级小人,一定要擦亮你的慧眼。清醒地认识到,有的兵,你能带成兄弟;有的兵,你会养成仇人。这是职场上无法回避的规律。下级小人,可能是你无意中得罪的,比如你重视了一个,无心中就刺伤了另一个,如果此人心胸狭窄,表面上对你恭敬有加,内心深处埋下了仇恨的种子。
职场上,每个上司总会遇到几个下级小人。有的小人,可能只是想跟你赌气,有的小人在关键时候,可能真的想要你的命。对那些无关紧要的小人,可以刀下留人,但一定要边缘化,不要让他接触核心机密。对那种内心里想置你于死地的小人,一定不能心怀慈悲、心慈手软,尤其是对那种可能会威胁你的核心利益和工作大局的小人,要想法设法清除你的团队,斩草除根,不留后患。
【三】对上级小人,以用为主
职场上,最倒霉的事儿就是遭遇了一位小人上司,你的每一天暗无天日、生不如死,一般人往往被逼无奈,走为上策。上司小人,往往是嫉贤妒能之辈、小鸡肚肠之人。心胸越是狭隘,手里的小鞋越多;工作水平不高,心里的坏水越浓。对威胁他地位的下属严加防范,打压排挤,冷落边缘,遇到他真是优秀下属的悲哀。
职场上,遇到上级小人,应对最为棘手。因为他对你有控制权,完全处于强势。要么,你辞职滚蛋,要么,你扭转局面。如果你无力改变格局,算好辞职的性价比,该辞职的辞职,少浪费一点青春。如果你辞职的性价比不合适,也不能为了一口气放弃职业生涯。韩信还能忍受胯下之辱,何况当代谁与自己的前程过不去呢。
对待上级小人,在委曲求全的同时,也要琢磨如何利用小人,努力把“绊脚石”变成“垫脚石”。记住:小人也不是天生的,君子也不是永远的,两者之间是可以互相转化的。其实,大多数人身上都具有君子和小人的双重人格。
第一招,顺应小人的格局,投其所好,忍辱负重,想方设法为你所用,转化为你的盟友,扭转被动局面,让小人接受你,并助你上位。
第二招,利用小人中“天使”那一半的人性,回避小人心中“魔鬼”的那一半,攻心为上,攻城为下,想方设法激发上级小人人性中善的那一面。
第三招,以上办法都不好使,只能以小人之道对付小人,借助更上级的力量为你扭转命运。这种上司小人其实在他的上司眼里也不是什么“好鸟”,他的上司说不定也在找机会收拾他。默默地收集证据,越级到更上一级申诉,可能出现两个结局:一是上级小人滚蛋,二是让上级小人知道你的厉害,形成新的制约平衡。
《论语》中说,君子喻以义,小人喻以利。小人之所以是小人,就是因为自私自利。他们把个人利益看的很重,所以轻易不要得罪,否则会给自己带来很多麻烦。但是,也不能一味委曲求全,否则小人会得寸进尺。
那么,应该怎么对付小人呢,一定要记住下面十个字。
一,热。对小人要表面热情,不要不理不睬。如果他们认为自己受到轻视,会盯上你的。
二,冷。当小人拔弄是非,背后议论他人时,要冷眼旁观,不制止,不参与,不附和。
三,远。有表面的交情,但不交心。采取敬而远之策略,恭敬有加,但是不深交,不处事。
四,多。跟小人打交道要谨记:多恭维,莫反对;多告罪,不得罪。
五,少。跟他们在一起的时候,一定要少说话,以免祸从口出。
六,躲。对他们一些坏水歪点子,要想办法躲开。做到不看,不听,不问,不为。
七,绵。跟他们交往,要懂得绵里藏针,最好不要直接拒绝,以柔克刚,以退为进是上策。
八,硬。如果小人得寸进尺,该给钉子时不要犹豫,一位忍让,只会更加被动。
九,击。小人公开发难时,要坚决反击,痛打一次,小人就会收敛许多。
十,狠。做人不能太软弱,否则小人就会肆无忌惮。该警告了,把脸一拉,效果非常明显。
掌握以上组合拳,小人翻不出多大的浪花!
明枪易躲暗箭难防的哲学原理
明枪易躲,暗箭难防是一种古老的哲学原理,它告诉我们,一些显而易见的威胁可能会更容易被避免,而一些隐藏的威胁则更加难以预测和应对。
这个原理可以应用于各个领域,例如战争、政治、商业等。在战争中,明显的敌人可以被很容易地打败,但是隐藏的间谍和暗杀者可能会对你造成致命的威胁。同样,在政治和商业中,一些公开的竞争对手可能并不是你真正需要担心的,而是那些暗中进行破坏的人。
这个原理也可以适用于我们日常生活中的决策。有时候我们会忽略那些看起来微不足道的细节,但这些细节可能会在关键时刻起到重要作用。我们应该保持警惕,不要只关注表面的东西,更应该注意那些潜在的威胁。
总之,明枪易躲暗箭难防是一个深刻的哲学原理,它提醒我们,要时刻保持警惕,不要被表面的东西迷惑,要始终留意那些看似微小但可能造成巨大影响的细节。
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